Supposing you are an woman who have been married for many years.The
initial happiness and interest of marriage has faded away.You are left
with much housework everyday.Others judge you not by your accomplishment
but how much you did for your family.You live not for your own love but
for the responsibility for your family.In this case,what will you
do?Submit yourself to life or pursue your love again?
The case applies to Francesca,a 45-years-old housewife,a mother of two.When she was alone at home,an old man called Robert Kincaid came to her home to ask directions.He was a photographer working for National Geographic.And in the following four days,she fell in love with this man,because he gave her much experience that her husband wouldn’t give.She enjoyed the life full of love with Robert Kincaid.
However,their love were destined to come to a tragic ending the moment it started because she already had her family.She refused his invitation to leave with him,for fear that her families would suffer from the whispers of the people here.As a result,they separated sadly.
They didn’t get in touch with each other until five years later after Kincaid died.She was an old woman then.And she also died several years later.
The story seems sad because the sweethearts can’t live together.It leads to a problem:which is more important,love or marriage?With love,Francesca can do whatever she want and travel with Kincaid,living a life in her dream.For marriage,her life is not only for herself:she is a wife and a mother.
It’s difficult to give the absolutelyright answer because different people will give different answers.I think the both are of equal importance.And I think Francesca made the best choice.She pursued her happiness bravely when it came to her.She invited Kincaid to her house ,drinking,having supper,dancing,walking,talking,kissing and making love.It’s what her normal life couldn’t offer and what she badly wanted.She was more of an ordinary housewife,because with Kincaid,she was beautiful and free like a young girl.The four days with Kincaid may be the most unforgettable ones in her life.Whenever she remembered it,she would be satisfied with the love.She would be reminded that she deserves to love and to be loved.And that’s the best gift for a woman.
But love has more deeper and richer meanings.It includes the love for a family.In other words,it means responsibility.Though difficult,she made the decision to continue her formal life. The loss is that she would suffer for the rest of her lifetime.Maybe you will conclude that the traditional ethics destroyed people’s happiness. But I don’t think it’s what the writer wants to tell us.On the one hand,these ethics seem rigid,while on the other hand,it ensures the happiness of the majority.
Francesca didn’t go with Kincaid the last day they met,which left a big regret in the rest of their lifetime.Let’s think of another ending.:Francesca decided to go with Kincaid that day and they traveled to places they wanted.Maybe most people would feel released because the lovers lived happily together.However,I don’t think so.If Francesca had decided to go with Kincaid,what would happen next?They might be happy in the beginning.But they might start to feel bored when the time went by.Because they would find the shortcomings of each other when they get used to their new life.Everything that had seemed interesting would lose its interest finally.And as the saying goes:Marriage is the grave of love.Because when love is involved in the hardship of live,it’s difficult for it to remain new. Only incomplete love can be romantic.
And I think it may be the best ending of love.Although Kincaid and Francesca had to separate forever,they still have the romantic four days,which they will treasure forever.The love between them shed light on the boring life of Francesca and give Kincaid who lead a vagrant life some support.They had got what they need badly in the four days.And I think the love itself was the best gift that they could give to the other.Love is not a result,but a process.We all live in the past.Love is short and hard to keep.We take a minute to know someone,one hour to like someone,and one day to love someone,but the whole life to forget someone.
Let’s focus on the other theme of the story:marriage.In marriage,the initial love gradually turned into family affections.The relationship between both sides is more of moral consideration.You will live a life like the one when you live with your parents.Family affections are not like love.It means responsibility and obligation.You can’t only consider your happiness,and you have to sacrifice frequently.
But each person needs love and deserves loving.So after you get married,remember to offer your love to your honey like you used to.Morality is used to keep the happiness of a family,and love is the tool to keep the happiness between a couple.
“Develop into a lifelong self-learner through voracious reading; cultivate curiosity and strive to become a little wiser every day.” — Charlie Munger
The fourth of July means nothing anymore. Overcooked hot dogs and fireworks that always leave you disappointed. Bite-size American flags made in China, halfheartedly waved by five-year-olds who’d rather be playing Minecraft. But the third of September, that’s a date which matters. It’s the day, three decades past, that a redneck from Gaffney married a debutante from Dallas. And the Earth’s axis tilted that day, though neither they, nor we, knew it at the time.
The best thing a human being can do is to help another human being know more.”
Here’s a woman who describes her vows as a suicide flirting with a bridge’s edge. And a man who wears his wedding ring as a badge of shame, for the debutante deserved more. But truly, what more could she desire?
Together, they rule an empire without heirs. Legacy is their only child.
“Go to bed smarter than when you woke up.”
Most people go through life not really getting any smarter. Why? They simply won’t do the work required.
It’s easy to come home, sit on the couch, watch TV and zone out until bed time rolls around. But that’s not really going to help you get smarter.
Sure you can go into the office the next day and discuss the details of last night’s episode of Mad Men or Game of Thrones. And, yes, you know what happened on Survivor. But that’s not knowledge accumulation, it’s a mind-numbing sedative.
But you can acquire knowledge if you want it.
In fact there is a simple formula, which if followed is almost certain to make you smarter over time.Simple but not easy.
It involves a lot of hard work.
We’ll call it theBuffett formula, named after Warren Buffett and his longtime business partner at Berkshire Hathaway, Charlie Munger. These two are an extraordinary combination of minds. They are also learning machines.
“I can see, he can hear. We make a great combination.” —
Warren Buffett, speaking of his partner and friend, Charlie Munger.
Together they rule an empire without heirs. Legacy is their only child.。We can learn a lot from them. They didn’t get smart because they are both billionaires. No, in fact they became billionaires, in part, because they are smart. More importantly, they keep getting smarter. And it turns out that they have a lot to say on the subject.
Warren Buffett spends 80% of his day reading.
How to get smarter
Read. A lot.
Warren Buffett says, “I just sit in my office and read all day.”
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